13-year-old Ling (a pseudonym) lying on the lions overseas Chinese hospital beds, handsome face is very quiet, just the body from time to time, twist the waist and the butt will hurt. 6:00 last night, read the fourth grade, Linda suddenly from the lions Baogai town a plant dormitory fall below a pile of garbage saved their lives, but the whole body or multiple fractures.
factory workers, said Linda is completely unbearable domestic violence are forced to have chosen to jump off a building, long ago, she also had one for the same reason and away from home home.
while Linda’s father, Mr. Ge admitted having beaten her daughter thought that her daughter is not necessarily jumping, may accidentally fall.yesterday afternoon, the Women’s Federation, Shishi City, learned that the post said that the Women’s Federation will allow Baogai town collaborative local police station to go, criticism and education of the parents.
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At noon yesterday, in Shiquan two roadside factory, the reporter saw Linda’s father, Mr. Ge. Mr. Ge said, he came to the lions workers over 20 years, Linda after birth, has been working in Jiangxi Province, home grandmother raising until last summer, she received the lions reading.
Linda falls, it is the majority of workers gathered in the cafeteria for dinner time. Living in the factory dormitory floor, Ms. memories, when she heard the window came the “bang”, then someone shouted, “was jumping”, she probes a look and found just below the wall of a pile of garbage on lay a little girl, it is Mr. Ge’s daughter Linda.
was Mr. Ge and his wife to eat on the first floor, heard the cries of Linda knew something was wrong.
factories quickly call 120, to Linda rushed to the overseas hospital. According to doctors, Linda systemic multiple fractures, but no life-threatening, and the need for further surgery.
next to the workers said, we usually like to throw garbage out the window and threw a long time, have a garbage hill outside the walls of the factory dormitory, Ling fall, just out in the rubbish, just to keep a life “.
[why falls] workers with the girls father give different answers
girls were often domestic violence to commit suicide?
workers that the factory dormitory windows one meter tall, nearly as high as with Linda tall, accidental falls unlikely. Is not forced to, who hit that were quasi-also can not stand to jump, a female worker at the scene said excitedly, many workers confirmed that I usually see the little girl by her mother, sometimes publicly played cockroaches, workers could not stand.understood, Mr. Ge have four children, the biggest boy in the factory to work, and the second is Linda, the following, two boys and three children in a nearby elementary school reading.
“Every day after school, she wanted to back three bags, I often see her from the 1st floor canteen Dafan upstairs to his brother who, in addition, two brothers, one worker said, Ge sir, yes, the couple usually “son preference”, the two little boys love Linda random beatings. Time Linda careless was supposed to a lunch box, rice and vegetables all fell out, the workers told her not to pick up, she quietly picked up was estimated to be worried about being hit.
workers said, “Not long ago, can not stand domestic violence, the little girl had run away from home, parents, schools and workers to find a couple of days to find. Linda schools also confirmed that, Linda had run away from home on a Sunday was only to find until the second week on Monday.
could not accidentally fall off the floor?
Mr. Ge said that her daughter is not necessarily jumping may not be accidentally fell off, but he does not know her daughter falls in what.domestic violence issues for workers, neighbors said, Mr. Ge said, usually angry when scolded her daughter, but they rarely beat, hands-on mother of Linda. Why scolding? Mr. Ge said daughter love the speech at home, sometimes called her to eat her to ignore, not listen, angers you, they will be beaten. Mr. Ge said they are not “son preference”, in fact they are a loving daughter, never did less food and clothing, for boys, one making them angry, also beaten education.
Linda domestic violence away from home to say, Mr. Ge said that retrieve her daughter after he had asked Linda away because her daughter did not answer, his is not clear why.
reporter tried to interview the mother of Linda, failed due to many to find, only to give.
yesterday afternoon, the Overseas Chinese Hospital, Linda has been sober, she only said a side in the 5th floor window to play, then sleepwalk fell down, and for other issues of the Reporter, Linda chose silence .
[all in the eyes of the girl] at school love love to laugh, home basic is not open
Ling teacher Chen’s eyes, the Ling was a lively child. Done quite well in the class is on the level, the second half of last year before transferring to school, but his classmates love love to laugh, she falls before the day, class after class of labor she also actively involved in, is a sunny and optimistic girl . Chen said, he learned that Linda often been a tough way of education “on several occasions to communicate with parents, parents can improve a child’s education.
Ling, another teacher also said that Linda’s mother usually will come and take the three children from school, and sometimes just met her scolding the little girl, then face to face to stop, but Linda’s mother recommendations for teacher seems to listen to.
in the factory workers eyes, Linda is a good girl, but do not love the speech. Mr. Ge also said that Linda at home rarely speak, and basically does not speak, accused her of not dare talk back to hit her but did not dare to fight back, “she is so small, did not dare contradict their parents.
[psychologists] parents should Family First Education Second
country two counselors Miss Zhang Hong said that each person’s resilience and compression mechanisms, whether adult or child, have a certain limit, beyond this limit is likely to go to the extreme, such as suicide. “And child problems, in the final analysis, parents, for example, Mr. Ge said that although there beats a child, but also loving daughter, but this love, the daughter may not be able to accept”.
Linda childhood been to live with her grandmother, we can say relatively estranged parents feelings. Mr. Ge couples just the child received close parent-child relationship is not close enough to take a strong education, the child is not acceptable, mental highly vulnerable. Such as to produce the idea of ”Mom and Dad do not love me” and go on to develop “Since you do not love me, why hit me, what hit me this idea, this kind of psychological accumulation in the heart, easy lay hidden dangers.
Miss Zhang Hong recommendations, no childhood dependent children, the estranged parent-child relationship, parents first thing to do is close parent-child relationship, and then again consider the issue of education, otherwise there is no parent-child relationship, any educational methods will fail. ” (Haixiadushibao Taiwanese version of Reporter Chen Shiguo text / Chart)
Do not let the impulse to cause regret
ancient saying of “sticks, spoil the child”, this tiger mom, wolf dad model of education, many parents may agree with this approach. Indeed, the “玉不琢不成器” educate their children is the responsibility of the parents, do not carry the responsibility when the rights of, any maltreatment of children, even if the name of love.
13-year-old Ling fall from the factory dormitory, leaving aside an accident or their own suicide, and children beaten by their parents at home it is a fact. Mr. Ge said the couple is very loving daughter, only beaten her too angry, which can be called on impulse. However, this cursed allows teachers, workers could not stand, Linda how maltreatment can be imagined.
If Linda is really unexpected fall with beaten unrelated, that I ask is beaten only by the extent to which a child to choose silence at home, but take joy to stay to school, and any with students laughter. In fact, this is Linda silent revolt, Mr. Ge rift between husband and wife and daughter must be repaired.
Therefore, parents scolding a child to have a certain limit, otherwise, the impulse may create irreparable regret. (Gently)