In the movie “Troy”, one detail: the mother of Achilles, he said you to stay (do not participate in the battle of Troy), will lead a quiet life, to find a good woman, children and grandchildren , they will be dear to you, you are gone they will remember you, when your children and grandchildren is not around anymore, your name will be forgotten; If you go to Troy, glory will belong to you, your great deeds, will be spread through the ages, the world will always remember your name, but you will be gone, your glory will bring your demise …

perhaps, in the eyes of many parents, “hopeful”, “looking female into the Phoenix” are nature dictates, the hope that their children are unwilling to mediocrity, do not do ordinary people to succeed, be a hero. Thus, staggered flying tiger mother wolf dad, family education “ferocious animals” children by the “oppression”. It is the harsh education on fostering children’s self-discipline, develop their self-confidence through the affirmation? The children have a happy childhood, or a young age to compete, so adults who earned higher achievement? Is to allow the children to be ordinary people, or become a hero? A heated debate.

from a human perspective, children have the final say. On one occasion, my children write an essay, I think could be improved, word for word and discuss, modify, and later got a “five stars” (usually he often was “three stars”), he was very pleased. Next, he write the essay, I asked him Any further together to fight for “five stars”, he shook his head, said “three stars” on the “three stars”, it does not matter. I laugh.

heroes, ordinary emotions, emotions, and a variety of experiences of ordinary people. To want your child to become a hero to give up the fun of ordinary people, in order to become a hero utilitarian education at the expense of the children a happy childhood at the expense not only is the child’s sadness, the sorrow of the parents, is the sorrow of education, the sorrow of the community. Let our next generation of heroes in more need rational, correct regression of human nature, relaxation for the children, also a happy childhood, requires the joint efforts of the whole society.

(Source: Japan Xinhua Press Network; Author: Wu Fu Rong)