latest statistics show that the counseling needs of high degrees

marital and family problems most confused

yesterday, Hangzhou seven hospitals found on last year’s outpatient statistics to remove the traditional mental outpatient counseling clinic substantial growth. In 2011, the psychological clinic of the hospital throughout the year the total number of 19,269 visitors, compared with 15,123 visitors in 2010, an increase of 27.5%.

psychological outpatient army, which the crowd demand? They are because of what problems to seek psychological help? Mao Hung, director of Beijing, Hangzhou City, seven-hospital medical psychologist, MD, deputy director of analysis obtained by highly educated people, higher demand for counseling, they need most to get professional help in marital and family problems.

college education is 60%

Mao Zhuren psychological clinic, the one pair of husband and wife. Wife is a music teacher for junior high school teacher, her husband is a state-owned enterprise executives, they have a 10-year-old daughter. When they find Mao Zhuren seek help, the couple had a falling out five or six years, is entangled if you want to divorce.

“contradictions mainly in two aspects.” Mao Zhuren said.

contradictions First wife to her husband every day evening to go home for dinner, and then after dinner sorted with her half an hour walk in the park district; but her husband is busy working all day, and very much hope that the future career better development.

contradictions in her daughter’s education. Wife that the husband should fulfill the responsibility of the father, usually to spend time with her daughter, coaching her daughter’s homework; husband that the wife of a teacher by profession, more expertise in the educational daughter, as long as the wife tube like.

Thus, in recent years, two people at home often quarreled, and came to such a sentiment brought to work.

Mao Zhuren said: “like this have received higher education couples, very common in the psychological clinic. If you look at the psychological clinic’s patients are classified in accordance with qualifications, master’s, undergraduate college degree, the proportion of patients to 62% of their advice, including marriage and family, interpersonal relationships, work and study three aspects of marital and family problems accounted for 47%. “

higher education, the pursuit of the higher quality of life

why the psychological clinic of the seven homes throughout the year, more than 60% of college-educated people? Mao Zhuren according to the actual situation encountered in clinical analysis, there are two main reasons.

First, the highly educated people are more in-depth understanding of the psychological counseling, counseling more than others, easy to accept, encountered problems are willing to seek professional help of a psychiatrist.

two for the average person is able to eat, clothing, pocket some money hidden, it will feel very satisfied with life. But for the highly educated people, when food and clothing problem is resolved, you start thinking about each other is not what you want, the pursuit of relatively high quality of life.

like mentioned before, his wife, sentimental, and the pursuit of a romantic life; more rational husband, career very seriously. “In fact, the couple no one is wrong, just different values ​​of the two people.” Mao Zhuren said.

key is the higher the degree, thinking the deeper, higher self, the pursuit of quality is also higher, so the factors will be more troubling them, a higher demand for counseling .

explicit husband and wife roles, deepen the division of identity

the saying goes, “Harmony”, these highly educated people should be how to prevent backyard fire it? Mao Zhuren with their own experience, to mention a few good recommendations.

Recommendation: Both husband and wife after marriage, to maintain the original circle of life, so can increase everyone’s concern, the probability of conflict between husband and wife will be reduced. And even between husband and wife in a conflict, this circle of life you vent or one of the ways to resolve the contradiction.

recommend two: the couple’s role is very important, and once a clear division of labor in everyday life, repeatedly stressed to deepen the recognition of each other, the division of labor, thereby reducing the occurrence of family conflicts. It should be noted, do not fight when the two men to emphasize the roles and division of labor in the family, and so would be counterproductive.

“The general principle is that couples tolerant, learn empathy only for each individual, there are a lot of individual differences.” So Mao Zhuren think, we can choose for his advice given own to do, if you still can not help solve the problem, you need to promptly seek professional psychiatrist to help. (Reporter correspondent Xu Qin Lina)